by Shelton Bumgarner
@sheltbumgarner
Let me be completely clear about something — I completely validate the anger of women over what’s going on in America right now and nothing I’m about to say should be seen as anything contrary to that sentiment. There’s an issue that I find myself struggling with and that’s how to be both “sex positive” and an ally to the #MeToo movement.
I say this because I like pictures of hot chicks but at the same time, I totally get why women would be angry that I might be this way. I simply don’t believe that sharing a picture of an attractive SI Swimsuit model on my Facebook wall is, in itself, sexist. I understand that in this charge environment doing this is probably a bridge too far for a lot of women.
But for me, it would be hypocritical to pretend that I was some champion of women’s rights and then not be equally honest about my attraction to the female form. And I get that as a man I probably shouldn’t say anything at all, but rather let this process work its way out. Women are rightfully furious about what’s going on and it is going to take time for all of this to straighten itself out. And the way things are going, it appears as though things are going to get worse — much worse — before they get any better.
Like I said — I’m pretty open about my love for the female form. And being “sex positive” means, in my view, that we don’t hide basic things like men like attractive women in bikinis, or whatever. But again, this is a very difficult time for a lot of people and there’s not much I can say. It’s one of those things where you either get it or you don’t. Either you’re so angry at men that you think they shouldn’t post pictures of hot chicks on their Facebook wall, or you don’t mind and you notice that, like, 80% of their shares are extremely empathetic and supportive of the #MeToo movement.
It’s a very difficult situation with no easy answers and by bringing it up and I’m liable to piss a few people off. But I needed to get it off my chest.
